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Thursday, June 11, 2009

You can only manage your half of any relationship

I'm always struck by how opposites attract. I'm also struck by how attraction turns into frustration over time. It's a fascinating phenomenon that we are drawn to people with different characteristics and strengths than we have. Then we spend the rest of our lives trying to change them so that they are more like us. Ironic, isn't it? In healthy relationships we can only manage our half of that relationship. How much time do you spend trying to manage the other person's half? How much time do you spend managing your own thoughts and actions? What can you do to manage your half more effectively? In order to manage our half it requires a great deal of awareness. Awareness of self and awareness of other. The first step to heightening our awareness is practicing presence. Become fully present in each moment as you observe yourself and others.

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